Black female dating white males
Personally, you'd get more points from me for if you can quote James Baldwin or if you're knowledgeable about or genuinely interested in learning about my culture beyond popular trends and stereotypes. Johnson wrote for Everyday Feminism: part of Black culture, that has to include learning about the history of what you’re appreciating and about the struggles and achievements of the people you’re borrowing from.
Then you’ll be the kind of ally who’s informed enough to honor our culture in a way that supports us — instead of just taking what you like and hurting our community.
Racism is a beast whose tentacles touch everything, from public policy and interpersonal interactions to academia and the Academy Awards.
People interact with that monster in various ways, including ways that reinforce white supremacy.
I also advocate because Black women are at a unique dating disadvantage in America.
Marriageable Black women outnumber marriageable Black men by the millions.
No one is suggesting Black women avoid black men altogether. We’ve been trying to “work through our issues” for over a century.
It kind of throws a damper on the inclination to explore interracial dating if you know your parents said they would disown you if you ever brought home a white boy. I’m seeing more and more Black women finding their bliss with the men who love and accept them, regardless of race. If you’re lonely and sad, but your entire peer group (including family) approves of the idea of never dating a non-Black man even if he was utterly kick-ass amazing, can you really say those people in your life want the best for you?
I often hear the old, tired line that black folks need to work on themselves before they can mingle romantically with other races. You can still advocate for change and love your blackness if you have a non-black spouse.
Being in an interracial relationship doesn’t make you Black.
Candice: There seems to be a stronger reaction to Black men who date outside their race than Black women who do the same. But when men do the same, it’s often seen as a betrayal. Christelyn: Actually, I’ve experienced that in the reverse.
Historically, Black men have been dating and marrying interracially at higher rates than Black women for the last 40 years.